Man says wife called sex a chore in front of friends at her birthday dinner he cooked
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Birthday dinner with friends has a Humiliating end
To set the context, I'm a (M42) HL married to a (F42) LL and have been really struggling with our sex life for around 10 years. She dictates all the terms of our sex life, and I work within her boundaries. She's just not into sex, regardless of what happens.
Anyway, we had 10 close friends over for my wife's birthday dinner and I was cooking for all, I worked my butt off on appetisers and mains, dinner went well, and everyone was happy....
After a little break I brought out the cake and was serving it up, and there was a little joke from one of her friends about my wife "putting out tonight because I worked so hard". My wife quickly snapped back and said "No, it's my birthday, I don't need another chore to do"...
Everyone started laughing (our mismatched libido's are known) and then the jokes kept coming, and it crushed me. The girls kept it going for about 15mins and couldn't stop laughing. I didn't react because didn't want to cause a scene for her birthday, but it was pretty demoralising and felt betrayed.
I honestly think I'm done, there's no point staying in a relationship with someone who's just not in it at the same level. At 42, I still think there's an opportunity to meet someone special, I'm just baulking because of the kids.
Overview
This image is a screenshot of a public post from Reddit's r/DeadBedrooms subreddit, a community focused on discussing romantic relationships with mismatched or absent sexual intimacy. The post is written by a 42-year-old man who shares he has been in a sexless marriage with his 42-year-old wife for 10 years, with his wife having far lower interest in sex than him. He recounts that he cooked a full birthday dinner for his wife and 10 of their close friends, and after dinner a guest joked that his wife should reward his hard work with sex. The wife publicly snapped back that she would not, referring to sex with her husband as "another chore". Guests joked about their widely known libido mismatch for 15 minutes afterwards, leaving the poster humiliated, demoralized, and considering ending his marriage, though he is hesitant because of their children. The screenshot was reposted to 9Gag with the title "NEVER become this guy", framing the poster's situation as a cautionary example for people in unfulfilling, disrespectful relationships.
Origin notes
The original content is a user-written post created 2 years before the screenshot was taken, posted to the r/DeadBedrooms subreddit on Reddit by user u/CroBro81. The screenshot of this Reddit post was later reposted to the platform 9Gag as a cautionary meme with the title "NEVER become this guy".
